I have decided that I am going to have to be more assertive when out with the double pushchair, not that it is in my nature to be aggressive in any way but simply because I can’t get from A to B if I keep giving way!
I know I am an exception to the rule, not many go out in triple buggy (although that was the early days, now poor BBhas to walk everywhere and he is only two and a half!) and I know that a double is cumbersome but seriously people can be so rude. I always say ‘excuse me,’ or ‘sorry wide load coming through’ (they can take that as they wish, the buggy or my rear!) and I always say thank you in usually a more than grateful tone with often a number of repeats.
|Out and about in the early days!|
So I was totally annoyed with myself after some silly 19 or even younger girl in Boots was rude to me and I scurried away as if I were to blame! Her and two other friends were deep in conversation down the middle of isle. I stop and waited, assuming they would see and move but no. I said ‘excuse me please, ‘ and still no response, ‘Excuse me’ I repeated louder and progressed forward a little. One of the girls caught sight and ushered the other two to the side while the very (annoyingly pretty) blonde hair girl went ‘Don’t mind me, you just run me over,’ with complete attitude! I then apologised for doing nothing wrong and scuttled to the door with BBin one hand cursing myself for not saying something to this little bitch.
To top of my trauma, as I get to the door I realise I it not automatic and now I am struggling to get both doors wedged wide open, while i push the double through and get BBout the door without making a grand escape, and you know what? Three, yes three people pushed past me at the door and did not even help me. Grrrrrr
Off to Tesco and I am waiting to find out fish prices for fish pie. The person in front of me places their order but does not say ‘Please’ or ‘Thank you’ when they have been served. It is like the people behind the counter are servants and therefore require no form of manners what so ever. How am I supposed to encourage my children to have manners when people day to day don’t demonstrate it?
Are people these days so wrapped up in their own little bubble that they fail to see what is going on around them? I believe so. Now I am sure I have on occasions been guilty of missing things, but seriously how hard is it to say please and thank you and assist somebody once in a while!
I know my situation is difficult including getting three so little in and out of a car. I have however, mastered a child on each hip, BBholding onto my cardigan, and locking the car door just to go the short distance into a building – the alternative is lugging out the buggy every time. If going to friends, they are great, they are usually waiting and meet me at the door and take one child from me so I can back and get the others. The thing is they don’t travel light, babies do they? My friends restore my faith in people. Them and the man who kindly parked my car after I got myself into a total pickle. I don’t usually let strange men drive my car but my Grandma and Kids were in it and I didn’t think he was likely to run away with them!
I know that some people feel that Mum’s of Dad’s with buggy’s feel like we own the street but seriously, I feel if we are not more assertive we could remain parked all day! So next time you out and you see someone with a push chair struggling with doors or steps, lend a hand, you will at least get a thank you!