This evening BBcame running into the lounge with a box in his arms saying ‘Mummy, me present, open it?’ I suddenly clicked that this was my Godson’s birthday present that was out ready to be wrapped for a birthday party tomorrow. I told him it was not his and his immediate response was ‘No, mine!’ I explained again and managed to distract him from the situation before we had a complete melt down. Then I hid the gift to help him forget about it!
I am usually constantly in awe of how quickly our children pick things up. From rolling over to walking, the first clap of the hands to talking; to understanding command and instructions like ‘please fetch me’ or the word ‘No!’ This word was quickly established in our house! The concept of sharing though, is one that I feel is going to take quite some time.
Before the twins were born I had a sort out of Noah’s toys and put the very baby ones aside for the twin’s arrival. When they arrived and we had settled into our routine I got their box of baby toys out, ready for use to ensure they were getting stimulated. Even from this point BBwas straight to the box saying ‘that’s mine’ and started reclaiming toys that he had had no interest in for months!
Now the twins are 17 months, we are experiencing the non sharing vibe from all three. At the moment BBis at the stage where he wants to ‘create’ and the twins are at the stage where they quite like to ‘destroy!’ This however is not conducive in the want to build a tower or put together a puzzle and is already causing issues! To top it off clearly whatever toy Florrie is playing with can’t possibly be as exciting as the toy Zachary or BBis playing with and so she must have that one! Her philosophy being, ‘What’s yours is mine and what’s mine is my own!’
This Christmas was tricky too because although BBwas getting presents more suited to his age we were forgetting there is still very little between him and the twins in age and obviously he was going to like their present too! He kept saying ‘Ah Zach has lovely present…for me!’
The final straw was that my husband was given a soft door stop in the shape of a dog for Christmas…really cute and BBdecided that this was his too! We managed to convince him that it was Daddy’s dog but ‘Daddy’s dog’ still has to go to bed with him every night!
So sharing clearly, will be slow progress. With all the things they learn so quickly possession and territory are amongst them. I think that sharing will come with the ability to learn the skill to play together. Well, I am hoping that this will be the case. Otherwise it will be cat fight central here! Tell what strategies do you use to get your to share?