This week has been a real eye opener for me in terms of the blogosphere. I have had a really busy week so have not been part of the twitter discussions as much as I would have liked but I have been taking a peek here and there and witnessing what has been going on.
The first revelation has been that of so called trolls. I think I may have been a little naïve in that I have believed almost everything written that I have read because why would anyone want to lie? It has made me ponder over the persona that I put across. On critical self analysis I feel that is it a genuine reflection of me. When I meet some of you at #cybermummy 11 I hope I am not a let down in anyway.
The idea of fake persona has forced my hand in writing this post. I have been referring to many of the people on twitter and that I blog with on a regular basis as ‘friends’ to my husband. Well there is not really another term for you lovely people is there? I also hope in most cases that this will develop to be true and #cybermummy will be the first officials meet up. As ‘friends’ I feel I need to be honest with how I feel, otherwise I am not being true to myself and this is on the topic of statistics!
Let me make it clear that I don’t get them! I have no real idea how they work or what each of them mean. I had set up wikio score and don’t even know if it works because it asked me to put in my RSS feed ULR and I think I might have made it up, as I did not really know what it was. (If anyone can help with this I would be grateful!)
Anyhow, what I do get about stats and scores is that some are top and some that are lower down the scale. It has been really interesting this week. I say this because there have been number of posts about starting up a blog or blogging for beginners. As a newbie myself I have been reading up on these. All of them state more of less that you should blog for you and not get caught up in the stats wars! Seem simple enough, except this week when the Tots 100 list came out I have never seen so much commotion.
I am not asking you to apologise for this. Personally I think it is human nature to want to succeed and do well. So I feel that there are conflicting messages because clearly stats and scorings actually do seem to count and matter.
I totally agree that when you write it should be for enjoyment, it should not become a chore and it should not interfere in your life in a way that is detrimental to your family, and I can also see how easy this could happen. What I don’t get is someone not wanting to do well? If this is the case they why put yourself on the scoring lists? If stats don’t matter, why does it matter what place you are?
Personally for me, it is a sense of achievement if things move up. It does add to my sense of satisfaction, and I would lying to say that it didn’t. I don’t check stats everyday, I don’t really know what I am looking for, but I love it when I get a comment, it makes me feel that people not only have read my post but hopefully liked it enough to say something. I don’t understand why this is wrong?
I was also upset this week because I noticed another fairly new blogger had done exceptionally well this month and I wanted to shout congratulations from the roofs tops, and yet felt it was awkward to. I found that from the comments I was reading this blogger almost had to apologise for how the system worked. Why should she not be allowed to receive credit where credit is due?
In conclusion I believe that it is human nature to want to be good at something. I kind of feel that if you wanted a space to just write for your self, you could do it on word or in a diary, put it in the drawer, therapy done. The fact that we want others to read it is why we put it in a blog and personally I find this even more cathartic, because I enjoy the feedback.
I am not going to go into a depression if my stats are crap, there are far more reasons why I do write, and there are too many external influences that can affect your stats, like going on holiday for one thing! I also feel that if I was not that impressed with my score I just would not show it, and that it the thing, if you are not in the 100 list they don’t show where you are, it is personal, so you don’t have to reveal it. However I also don’t feel you should have to justify feeling happy if you do well or let down if you have a bad month. I think these feelings are natural. I do think we support those that we are enjoying and reading and who are doing well and they should not be made to feel as if it is not a justified reward. Otherwise what is the point of the score lists?
Please let me know what you think, should stats matter? Should we have score lists if they don’t? Whatever you think, you have to agree that there are mixed messages!