My husband and I have been together eleven years this year which I feel is pretty impressive. Over the years I have been fortunate enough to witness him becoming quite the romantic, however, this has not always been the case.
In a first few months of dating (when he was to be quite honest giving me quite the run around!) the month of February came upon us! It was at this point that I hinted that something lovely could be done for Valentine’s Day assuming that he would have already planned it. His response was that he felt romance should not be dictated and that he did not believe in the money-making scandal. My feelings were that seeing as he wasn’t romantic at all, surely I was entitled to one day of the year when he was told to be! But I started wondering if he had a point. Is Valentine’s Day romantic and thoughtful or contrived and moneymaking?
The day before valentines however, I received the most beautiful bouquet of flowers with a card saying ‘Romance is when you least expect it!’ How lovely! I was smitten and he was in the good books and our dating continued. Now the cynics (like a lot of his friends) could not understand how he got away with this, believing that he had done this in order to send a cheaper bunch of flowers and that I did not see through this. I like to think he was trying to teach me something and as annoying as it is, the little worm was right! It was so lovely getting flowers when I was not expecting it!
Since then I have been spoilt with romance at all sorts of occasions, notes under my pillow, roses in the bed (although if you attempt to do this, please remove the thorns!) and jewellery in Easter eggs! My most treasured possession is a heart-shaped stone he found on the beach and he put it in my bag to find – it is still in my memory box.
Valentines Day is celebrated in a big way now, with lavish gifts, dinners out and champagne flowing and I am sure that a lot of businesses revel in this. There are adverts everywhere and huge pressures to think of the next grand gesture! However, I do hope that we think of Valentine’s in its true sensewhich is an annual commemoration held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions meaning honouring those we love; the people in our lives that complete us like a jigsaw, that finish our sentences and pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong. It is a lovely way to say, “I know we lead busy lives but I really do love you” and it doesn’t have to be expensive.
I am a sentimental romantic and I will still hope for my card this year, but no lavish gifts, just a quiet night in admiring the three beautiful children we have created together. I am still definitely for romantic and thoughtful. What do you think? Leave me a comment below to let me know!