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Potty Pressure

My eldest boy is coming up to 33 months now and I will say openly, ‘Yes he is still in nappies!’
The pressure to get him dry is immense but I am having so many problems.
Firstly he does not like being bare bottomed, he always wants his trousers back on, so I can’t let him run around ‘free’ so to say.
He freaks out when he see pants! I mean actually freaks out with serious sobbing upset!
To begin with, he refused to sit on the potty, and in the last couple of weeks this has improved and he will occasionally sit on it but we have still not achieved one wee yet! He can tell me when he wants to do a number two, but as soon as we get him to the potty it all goes into retreat! If we catch a little bit, he says ‘Oh Mummy, only a baby poo, no Daddy poo!’
So many people with younger children seem to be nailing this in one week! I don’t understand why BBand I are finding this so hard! (By me, I mean helping, not that I am not potty trained! Although after a very drunken night a few years ago my husband may say otherwise!) 
One of the problems is that I know it means staying house bound for at least four days. Well doing that with one child is one thing, when you can entertain just them and cook and play and give them 1:1 attention with the potty as your new best friend, but when you have two other babies now toddling around, both wanting your attention, it makes things that bit more tricky. House bound with three for four days is not fun. We will all go stir crazy!
The second problem is, that he is so close to the twins in age and in friendship, that he wants to be like them, so if they have a nappy on he wants one too.
Some people have advised me to go straight for the toilet, but he won’t sit on that. Some have suggested going for it in an intensive 1 week session and some have said to wait and go with it. I don’t really know what the answer is, but I am beginning to feel the pressure that people are thinking ‘Nappies, really? At his age?’
I fear that I may have scared him and put him into permanent wee fright!
Part of me is wondering whether I wait to the summer and do them all in one go, but then will I be late for BBand too early for the twins? You see this is hard isn’t it? Or is it just me? I am having major fits of self doubt.
So any suggestions would be gratefully received, particularly if you have tried potty training when you have more than one child. I am just all out of options! Pissing in the wind so they say, and if BBwas doing even that I would be happy! (Maybe not the passers by, but I would be!)
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13 comments to Potty Pressure

  • Mummy and the Beastie

    I am afraid I can offer no real advice, my son is 2 at the end of the month so younger but still no where near ready for potty training. He has a potty but just messes about with it, I know what you mean about the pressure from others though. You just have to go with what your child wants and when he seems ready, usually when he can't bear having a soiled nappy. I read about a Mum of 3 who got 2 of her kids trained early but left the last one until they were really ready and that kid was the only one that didn't bed wet. Remember not to bow to pressure, easier said than done I know! :-) xx

  • sbooth

    Dont succumb to pressure honey, I made that mistake once and got me nowhere! As soon as I took stock of importance (none, I've never seen an adult still in nappies!) he seemed more relaxed too. With both, I put them in pull ups when we were out. No wet clothes and it didn't 'set them back' as some experts say, it just stopped them feeling anxious. Also, mothercare sell training pants that seemed to work really well after a while. A bit pricey at £10 for pack of 2, but they look and feel like pants but have a waterproof outer to avoid wet trousers. The only other thing I can say is it's a lot easier, if u can wait a month or so, in warmer weather with lighter clothes. He'll get there when hes good and ready! Good luck honey. Xx

  • Windmill Tales

    Hi!

    My little one is out of nappies now, How we did and maybe you can get some tips from it was: We went on a special pant buying shopping trip, that was it all we bought were pants in every shop that sold pants (trust me you need them anyhow) this made her feel grown up and special, she carried the money and bought them. We had potties round the house, in the toilet, living room and we had a star chart 5 wees = 1 pressie (pound shop toy) 2 number twos = pressie.

    We went with the flow, took off nappies and didnt put them back on. We also used pull up nappies for out and about and now still do for night time, yes they are more expensive but at least she doesn't feel like she is nappies again. Agree with Sbooth in that dont agree with experts.

    Also as she said he will get there when he is ready, just go with the flow! (sorry no pun intented)

  • sarahl.bristow

    Do not let anyone pressure you or Noah, He will do it when he is ready. You do need to do it when you have a good 4-7 days house bound and also would advise doing it when you have hubby around as the washing involved can be stressful for the first few days, along with wet patches over carpets etc. If he is not liking it right now then stop, who cares if he is in nappies? and with the little ones still in nappies of course he wants to be like them, cause then he gets mummy attention like they do when it comes to changing.
    JC on the other hand has a little baby brother (3months) and then all his friends were going on the "big boy toilet" so he wanted to copy and do as they do, NOT what his little baby bro was doing.

    Just do it when Noah is ready, not you or anyone else but when he is ready. Try leaving the potty around so he gets used to it but no pressure on him to use it. :-) xx

  • WhiteLily

    Hi! Thanks for tweeting your link to me! (@mummiafelice) Don't let anyone pressure you – it really sounds like he isn't ready, and if he gets that upset, it will only set him back in the long run. They all get there in the end.

    I would wait a bit, when you think the time is right, but don't feel you need to train the twins then as well. Let them lead. See how things go, you might find when they see Noah using the potty they might follow suit. But just ignore all the comments, you know your children best of all and just when you think they will never do it – they do!

  • Michelle Twin Mum

    Hi, Just found you via BMB. Another Mummy of 3 (2 of which are twins).

    My biggest advice is to just take the pressure off yourself. You cares what people think, You have three tiny peopel to contend with, they probably have one. Only another multiple Mum knows what it is like.

    Ask Noah what he wants to do. Give him options – red or blue potty? Try and get his buy in. Let him choose his pull up pants for bedtime or choose some big boy pants.

    What does he love? Offer a reward for him using the potty. Miss E had the promise of watching Peppa Pig with just Mummy (once Daddy was home) to help her along.

    If Noah really does not seem ready and it is stressing you both out, then stop. Leave it a month and start again. It gets so much easier as the weather gets nicer too.

    Good luck, have followed your blog. Will be back.

    Mich x

  • HAYLEY

    hun, I have potty trained 2 kids already and gotta start thinking about number 3 soon but if there is any advice i can give u it is do it when u feel ready and when u feel noah is ready!! Who cares what other people say or think, its not their business, just follow your instincts!! I wont bore u with all my stories and experiances but would deffo recommend pull-up nappies and warmer days!! Also, i found havin a piece of plain paper and a huge selection of colourful stickers a real help, (this was kept close at hand or mainly on the bathroom wall!!)everytime there was a wee or poo in the loo or potty a sticker was lovingly chosen and plonked on the paper!! Good luck with it and dont stress yourself, it will all happen in good time!! xxxx

  • Don't step on the cracks

    I would echo what everyone else has said re taking the pressure off and not worrying so much about it. My daughter who is 4 trained around the age of 2 and we used pull ups etc when out although she got to the point where she refused to wear 'baby pants' however the point is that my small boy has just turned 2 and isn't remotely interested in the toilet or potties. I won't be starting anything with him for some time I suspect. Every child is different and you know your child best. Don't worry about everyone else and do it when it's right for you both x

  • multiplemummy

    Thank you everyone for all your advice. I think the concensus is that I should just step back and wait a while. I might take the little man on a shopping trip and get him involved in some big boy purchasing and then go from there! I think maybe it is me who needs to relax more! Will let you all know how we progress. xx

  • Nicole

    I was always of the opinion that if they made nappies in harrys size, then kids his age were still wearing them!
    wait til the summer when he'll be wearing less clothes anyway, and just leave the potty lying around. reward him even if he only sits on it and doesnt produce anything, and make the rewards bigger if he does. even if its just a few more sweets.
    try popping his toys on the potty too, and the toys can do pretend wees, with much praise!
    Like everyone else said, he'll go when he's ready and the more pressure you put yourself and him under, the less likely he will be to do it.
    Harry will be 4 in april and although he uses the toilet for number ones, number twos are still occasionally an issue, but the more frustrated i got with him doing it in his pants, the worse he was. Now i only silently swear if we have messy pants, but sit him on the toilet anyway and he's getting much better with me keeping my stress to myself!!!!

  • HAYLEY

    hun, I have potty trained 2 kids already and gotta start thinking about number 3 soon but if there is any advice i can give u it is do it when u feel ready and when u feel noah is ready!! Who cares what other people say or think, its not their business, just follow your instincts!! I wont bore u with all my stories and experiances but would deffo recommend pull-up nappies and warmer days!! Also, i found havin a piece of plain paper and a huge selection of colourful stickers a real help, (this was kept close at hand or mainly on the bathroom wall!!)everytime there was a wee or poo in the loo or potty a sticker was lovingly chosen and plonked on the paper!! Good luck with it and dont stress yourself, it will all happen in good time!! xxxx

  • sarahl.bristow

    Do not let anyone pressure you or Noah, He will do it when he is ready. You do need to do it when you have a good 4-7 days house bound and also would advise doing it when you have hubby around as the washing involved can be stressful for the first few days, along with wet patches over carpets etc. If he is not liking it right now then stop, who cares if he is in nappies? and with the little ones still in nappies of course he wants to be like them, cause then he gets mummy attention like they do when it comes to changing.
    JC on the other hand has a little baby brother (3months) and then all his friends were going on the "big boy toilet" so he wanted to copy and do as they do, NOT what his little baby bro was doing.

    Just do it when Noah is ready, not you or anyone else but when he is ready. Try leaving the potty around so he gets used to it but no pressure on him to use it. :-) xx

  • Nicole

    I was always of the opinion that if they made nappies in harrys size, then kids his age were still wearing them!
    wait til the summer when he'll be wearing less clothes anyway, and just leave the potty lying around. reward him even if he only sits on it and doesnt produce anything, and make the rewards bigger if he does. even if its just a few more sweets.
    try popping his toys on the potty too, and the toys can do pretend wees, with much praise!
    Like everyone else said, he'll go when he's ready and the more pressure you put yourself and him under, the less likely he will be to do it.
    Harry will be 4 in april and although he uses the toilet for number ones, number twos are still occasionally an issue, but the more frustrated i got with him doing it in his pants, the worse he was. Now i only silently swear if we have messy pants, but sit him on the toilet anyway and he's getting much better with me keeping my stress to myself!!!!

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