They says rules are made to be broken but to be honest I have always been a bit of a rule follower. I have found this quite hard – I am fairly straight-laced and as a teacher by trade I am more of a rule setter!
On the rare occasions the rules have been broken (like pinching a chocolate biscuit as a kid from the tin or when I truanted from school (and got caught) so I could revise for my French exam the next day (oh yes the irony).
I thought I would not be able to take part as I figured I was fairly conventional but actually on reflection maybe not so when you consider today’s society.
So here are my unconventional moments!
I met Multiple Daddy when I was 18
I had just finished my A levels and was working in a pub to earn some cash whilst trying to figure out what to do with my life. My future Hubby came into the pub and we got chatting. I found out he was a teacher at the other school in town and he persuaded me to head to university. At the time I thought he was a little older at about 22 but I then found out he was 10 years older at 28!
Many doubted how long we would last (including hubby himself).
I think he thought as well as others that as soon as soon I went to university that would be the end of things. We have proved people wrong.
I married young
At 22 years old (the month I finished Uni) and to get married that young now is quite unusual. I have never had a girly holiday or had that social butterfly lifestyle that you do in your 20’s. I have never had my own money (it has always been ours, with bills to pay) so as a result my wardrobe and fashion sense have suffered! I still don’t feel like I have missed out.
I had my first baby at 26
I think this is still considered fairly young. Both my sister in-laws have really set themselves up career wise (and worked their little buts off to get where they are) and didn’t start their families until 37. When I attended the ‘New Mum’s’ group in our town after having Noah, I was the youngest by at least 6 years.
However for me, even after getting my career as a teacher (I followed the rules to get an education) I really wanted children – it was never in doubt. I could have worked a little longer and worked my way up the ladder but hubby and I had to compromise as he was 36 and did not want to be much older to start his family.
Three children under 18 months
Six months after BBwas born I found out I was expecting again. This was so unlike me. It was unplanned and New Year and alcohol have a lot to answer for! It was going to be a 16-month age gap and I was in complete shock. Now lots of people have this kind of age gap but imagine our surprise when we discovered were expecting twins! The hyperemesis kicked in and it was a shocking pregnancy. I spent time in hospital and guilty for having to leave ‘my baby’ at home. They arrived a month early so I had three children 15 months apart!
A natural twin labour
I like to think that I broke the rules here, as most people expected me to have a C-section, and this is of course not uncommon with twins. However, my twin labour was so short that there really was no time to think about anything other than getting them out. 1 hour and 40 minutes and I had two little bundles that I felt so proud to yes ‘Oh yes, natural delivery.’ I felt it was my reward for such a horrid pregnancy.
I did not return to work
This actually was not my choice. Due to childcare costs with three children, I could not afford to work. In fact I would have had to pay to go. This is my real chip on my shoulder in terms of rules, because I as I say I feel I played it by the rules well, work hard, get an education, marry and settle, then have children. The fact that after this I can’t afford to work is completely ridiculous to me. It has forced us to one salary and has made thing financially difficult. Saying that, without this happening I never would have discovered blogging and embarked on a writing mission that has opened door to opportunities I never knew existed, so with every cloud comes a silver lining.
That’s it really, my little life of not playing it by the rules. It is about as daring I get. But you know what? I actually quite like rules. I like having standards, expectations and things to aspire to. Sometimes not all rules are worth breaking.
This blog was written as part of the Netmum’s blogging prompt, to coincide with the new series of One Born Every Minute which is on Channel 4, 9pm Wednesdays