Have you ever had that elastic band feeling? The one where you are stretched and stretched until you either ping (and really hurt yourself) or snap under the pressure.
I am being stretched in every direction by three little ‘tinkers’ who all want a piece of Mummy at exactly the same time and are no longer willing to share to my lap.
This could be for many reasons. Maybe because they are bigger my lap is no longer comfortable with only a bit of a leg to rest on? Or maybe they are just such adoring affectionate children that Mummy cuddles are a complete necessity to function? Or maybe it just that whatever one has the other one wants and they will do anything to get it! Yes I am afraid that is what it is and Mummy is the golden crown!
The golden crown means dominance, power and can rule over all! Or so they seem to think. It is bizarre, they have gone from such delightful children who…..(*Conscience comes to speak to me* ‘Now stop Multiple Mummy…just STOP! Delightful children before what? Before they moved? Spoke? Had their own personality and independence? You are being unfair here!) Yes conscience you are right, but life was so much easier when they were in moses baskets! Now it is all ‘Mine’, and ‘Up Up’ and ‘Mummy Mummy Mummmmmmmmmy!’ I do know I have delightful children and I am hoping this is just a tough phase – it is guilt that makes me feel this way.
I wish there was such a thing as a Mummy Slicer that could divide me up equally like a pizza. I spend most of my day feeling guilty about not being able to give them individual quality time.
The 1:1 attention that BBneeds to do a puzzle or make something with play dough without the other two demolishing all he has accomplished. The girly time with Little Madam, pushing her buggy and tucking baby up in bed or reading a book and my Chilled out boy who would love to play towers or have an indulgent Mummy cuddle without his sister or brother trying to push him out the way.
So how does a Mummy share herself? Especially with three so close together in age. How can I give them the quality time they need and deserve. I am finding this really hard. I feel bad because when you have your 1st child they get so much undivided individual care but mine are having to learn to share, wait and be patient and how to only have one slice very young. Is this fair? Is this normal? I would definitely appreciate some advice on this one.