It never worried me whether I would have boys or girls, although I was always convinced that we would be an all male family! When we had our 3D sexing scan with the twins and I found out that it was going to be one of each, I was so shocked but delighted to be expecting a girl. I got very excited and envisioned nothing but pink, sparkles and angels!
As my ‘Little Madam’ as her older brother so aptly describes her, has gone from baby to toddler, it has become very clear that she is the key to all the happenings in this household. She is tiny, has no hair, and only four teeth (despite being 17 months) but she rules the roost and has her two brothers completely in her power!
She inspires naughtiness, she climbs everything, and she shouts the loudest. Everyone knows where our ‘little Madam’ is in the house! As for pink, well…she does not really suit it! Not the baby powder pink anyway. She is more cerise pink, bold purples and aubergines and greens, to match her eyes. She has already demonstrated that he has a good throwing arm, her favourite toys are cars and she can definitely throw herself on the floor in a dramatic way to highlight she is not happy with the situation! She is feisty through and through.
The boys look on adoringly. They give her everything she asks for, they let her go first for everything and BBis constantly reporting to me as to what she is up to and how she is feeling. If she is naughty, like pulling a clump of Noah’s hair out for example, bringing him tears and finding it funny (yes…I said naughty!!!), and I tell her off, he says ‘No Mummy, Florrie sorry!’
She is, absolutely gorgeous to me and I adore her determination, but girly and angelic she is not!
|Little Madam taking her brother’s on for a race!|
BBon the other hand is the most sensitive of souls. He is gentle and cautious and tries desperately hard at being naughty but is always so distraught at the fact that I might be unhappy with him, that he never really sees it through. To add to this sensitive streak is his creative streak and he is already informing me of what he would like to wear, had told me his favourite colour is indeed ‘Pink!’ and only wants to dress in the princess outfits at nursery!
So my little girl is not girly and my little boy is not, well, boyish. To begin with I was really worrying about this, and was more concerned about how my husband would be but he is not fazed at all. He says it does not bother him if in years to come BBis my shopping partner and Florrie is having a pint with him whilst watching the football!
But who are we to say really what is male and female. We are the ones that put gender to everything and say pink is for girls and blue is for boys! My brother in law also admitted that he used to like wearing dresses because he liked how they swirled! So I am breaking down the gender barriers and am not going to push them into things I think they should be into and give them the freedom to be who they want to be. Hopefully I am making the right decision!