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A tribute to my beautiful wife…….Multiple Mummy

As you know it was Kerry’s funeral on Friday and I was delighted that the blogging community were represented by Liska (NewMumonLine), Annie, (Mammasaurus), Helen (Actually Mummy), Helen (Crazy Kitchen), Lucy (Dear Beautiful) and of course Emma (mummymummymum.com and Science Sparks).

There is a lovely post about the funeral at http://newmumonline.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/today-4th-january-2013-multiple-mummys.html.

I also know that so many of you wanted to be there and once again ‘twitter’ was lit up by messages for the incredible and inspiring Multiple Mummy.

Therefore, this post has not been written for the blog. It was written for darling, my inspiration as a tribute at a ‘Thanksgiving Service’ for her wonderful life. It was suggested to me that the blogging world would like to see it.

“Kerry would often ask me, ‘Do you think people like me?’ I think today has answered that. I have received so many cards that have started with the phrase, ‘there are no words’. I cannot agree more and what ever I say now will not do Kerry justice nor are there words that can describe my devastation at the loss of my darling, my soul mate.

Kerry planned this day; we had discussed it way before the tragedy of that Sunday morning in July. The music was her choice and she always wanted a woodland burial. Her final resting place is under the tree on the back of the Order of Service, peaceful, beautiful and somewhere the children can visit and collect leaves, observe and chase wildlife, acting like children do and be close to their Mummy. Some people have said that she had a ‘sixth sense’ and she knew this was coming. A week before this happened, she looked particularly sad, now Kerry was someone who craved change and I asked ‘what’s up’?

She replied, ‘Nothing, I have never been so happy and content, it’s just that any change will be bad change’. Kerry was always right in any discussion, I just wished she had failed in that one.

It is very easy to focus on Kerry the most wonderful mother to our children but we must not forget that before ‘Multiple Mummy’ there was Kerry the beautiful daughter who needed a trail of chocolate buttons to make her crawl, the model student who was distraught any time she was reprimanded. She was particularly distraught when she was caught playing truant. Of course, Kerry hadn’t decided to go to the beach but was on her way home to revise for a French exam because there was a cover teacher and she couldn’t concentrate in the class.

My prayers are with Sandra who has not left Kerry’s side for the last five months. A know people talk of a special relationship between mother and daughter but there was no doubting this one, they were more like best friends. The hours they spent on the phone and I mean hours, even if they were meeting each the next day for a shopping trip. Kerry would so enjoy those shopping days or trips to the Ideal Home Exhibition. She would leave first thing in the morning and not return until dark. One of the things I will miss is Kerry returning home laden with bags and then taking each bargain out one by one.

There is Kerry the loyal and caring sister and of course dance partner in many family productions performed in front of mum and dad and grandparents. She always promoted Owen’s music and was so looking forward to being a bridesmaid for Lisa and Chris’ wedding.

She had so many close friends; she was always honoured to be a godparent or a bridesmaid. Do not be angry and do not let this change you. Kerry loved you for who you are, do not feel you cannot go out and have a good time, do not lose your faith; do not feel guilty for laughing again.

Kerry rarely drunk alcohol, she always preferred a hot chocolate or Mars milkshake instead of champagne. She didn’t need alcohol. She was relaxed in any situation and she had the knack of making every one else feel at ease. She could speak for hours to people she hardly knew, she walked into the room and her smile just lit up the entire room. When I am feeling sad I just need to close my eyes and see that incredible smile. Perhaps that what we should all do now. Think of that smile….

Although she had this wonderful innocence and naivety about her and was often a few minutes behind every joke, she was not a walkover. Working with patients with a severe psychological illnesses did not faze her and no teenager ever got the better of her in class. She had the most creative mind and spent hours working out ways to make science, exciting, accessible and relevant – the theory behind genetics was explained by the Harry Potter books. Her colleagues, parents and her students respected her. They looked forward to her lessons and not just to see at which point she would trip over or drop the equipment.

I was so proud of her and her blog. This was more than just putting the odd article on the site. She worked for hours on it. The response from this community was incredible. The prayer for Kerry trended at number 1 on twitter and she has had hundreds of posts dedicated to her. The bizarre thing is that she has not met most of these people. Only Kerry could get across her warmth, her humour, her sensitivity, her openness and honesty in a medium that is so impersonal and one where tone cannot be expressed. Kerry always says she never won anything and I am heartbroken that she may never have known about winning 2 National Awards for her blogging exploits. I have no doubt that the blog was going places and it is not an exaggeration that both multiplemummy and scienceparks had worldwide support. Any decent photo will always carry the phrase, ‘Now that would make a great Silent Sunday’

I am so lucky to have spent so many amazing years with her. We do not share the same interests in sport or dance but we shared the same values and beliefs and we agreed that family was the most important thing. That is why Christmas is so special to her and I am so thankful for the massive family Christmas of last year. She planned Christmas from Boxing Day. I didn’t need to buy the children’s stockings this year because they were already done by June. It is so fitting that the tree and decorations are still up and we shall leave the church lit up by the Christmas lights. The magic of our angel has already been at work. You can imagine my concern when Zachary asked for a frog for Christmas. But not just any frog but a ‘Blue Froggy’. Friends relatives searched far and wide, visiting every known toy shop but to no avail. Then Sandra found one, in the gift shop at Addenbrooks, you can just wonder who put it there.

Kerry was so thoughtful in all of her presents and she even managed to get me a 40th Birthday Present. I received the most beautiful hand made walking staff from her Uncle; the last thing she said to him was to ask him to make this for me.

Having children was always on our agenda and the dream of that Disney Family Life. She even had a drawer dedicated for items for our dream house picking up collectables on any trip. Of all the overseas adventures, nothing could match the wonderful summer of last year, Peppa Pig World, Center Parcs, the Lake District, good old fashioned family fun.

Kerry was my inspiration; she was so determined in everything she did. She knew my moods, she was so unselfish, we didn’t argue, we just knew when it was time to compromise. We cherished every moment, whether it be watching Les Mis, going to London, a short walk (with Kerry it was always going to be short), and our favourite evening was Sunday, a roast and snuggle up on the sofa…. Simple but perfect.

How I shall miss those evenings, I shall miss making that cup of tea every morning and then finding it half drunk an hour later. I shall miss the frustration of catching her eating a big bar of chocolate just before I am about to serve up dinner. I shall miss my drive home from work feeling excited about seeing my beautiful wife. I shall miss that Friday feeling knowing that we have a family weekend planned. I shall miss watching and admiring the magical relationship she had with all our children. Thankfully, we have so many photos of her and the children laughing, giggling and abundant with love. I shall miss everything.

Kerry has left us with the most magical legacy in our three wonderful children. She lives in every one of them. Noah, our thoughtful kind boy who shares his mother’s obsession for sorting things into an order, Florence who has definitely inherited her determination, her independence and ability to remain in total charge of the house. Zachary who also has the ability to give everybody a feeling of warmth with his smile and laugh, has also inherited the clumsy gene and like his mother can knock a drink over from a hundred yards. She was the most incredible mother and words cannot express how I feel about them missing out on her love in the future.

In our song, our first dance, the lyrics say ‘taking away my sadness and ease my troubles, that’s what you do’ The problem is you are not here to take away my sadness. However, this can’t be a sad song, every time I hear it I shall think of my gorgeous, wonderful wife and of course that beautiful smile and I can go to sleep knowing that the last thing you said to me was ‘I Love You’.”

As for the photo….. It has to be the moment ‘Chilled Out Boy’ opened his ‘Blue Frog’ from Father or (Mother) Christmas

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93 comments to A tribute to my beautiful wife…….Multiple Mummy

  • A beautiful beautiful tribute to your wonderful wife. Xxxxxxx

  • Beautiful tribute to Kerry!I will always remember Kerry’s beautiful smile! :O)

  • Anne G-T

    Simply beautiful and inspiring, just like Kerry. My thoughts are with you, your family and all of your friends. I am so so sorry. Much love xx

  • LauraCYMFT

    What a beautiful tribute to your wife. I read it with tears down my face and a lump in my throat. I wish I could say more apart from our thoughts continue to be with you all.

  • A perfect message to a perfect lady. Thank you for sharing here on the blog. I feel quite chocked up now but privileged to have been able to read it.

  • OneDad3Girls

    I never knew Kerry personally but always enjoyed reading her blog and tweets.

    All I really wanted to say was you are stronger than I’ll ever be.

    I wish you well

  • Beautiful. Just beautiful. Thank you for posting this, very touching and a fond way to remember Kerry.

  • This is one of the most beautiful memories of somebody I have ever read.

    I am one of those people who didn’t meet Kerry but has been so touched by all that happened. Know that Kerry will live on so many hearts, but most importantly yours and the children’s.

    What an extraordinary family you all.

    Much love

  • Absolutely beautiful. I have read from Liska that Kerry had the most wonderful send off. I think of you all everyday and my thoughts are always with you x

  • Katie kitchener

    Hi nick,

    What you have written is the most beautiful thing I have read. Kerry will never be forgotten in my family, as every time I open my photo album with the pictures from New York I will see Kerry and her gorgeous smile.

    Always thinking about you and the children.

    Katie xx

  • I don’t think it is just Kerry who can bring warmth to the unknown, Nick you have been so Strong and brave also, I never met Kerry myself but I have heard so much and all of it wonderful, thank you for sharing this post, thoughts with you all x

  • Beautiful. Thank you for sharing it. Thinking and praying for you all.

  • Apologies if this is littered with spelling errors. I cannot see through my tears. Your wife did not know me at all in the blogging community, as I was always too busy to leave comments, but I always read and loved her stuff and I am so so so sorry for your tragic loss. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful children. Thank you for sharing something so personal and heartfelt. It makes everything seems so trivial and yet so important all at the same time. I wish I could help you somehow.

  • you have definitely done Kerry justice Nick, it was a beautiful service and you and the rest of your family did Kerry proud, I was honoured to have been part of that.
    That photo is definitely one to cherish xx

  • I know I heard this on Friday but I am now going to read it again, very very slowly.
    You are such a credit to Kerry Nick.
    You two were so very very well matched.
    Hugs, Liska x

  • Chelle McCann

    Beautiful tribute Nick. Sending love and hugs to you and the children.

  • That is one on the most beautiful but saddest post ive ever read!
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  • As I read that I could hear your voice reading it as you did last week. I have again cried picturing Zachary and his frog and smiled at the thought of Kerry following a trail of chocolate buttons.

    I haven’t really stopped thinking about you all since Friday, I was so touched that your mum and sisters and Kerry’s sister came to speak to me. You are such a lovely family.

    I know there is nothing I can say or do to make things easier for you, but please know that I am always here if you need anything.

    Emma x

  • I never met Kerry but I have been following her story and have felt as if I had got to know her through this and other blogs. Thank you so much for sharing your message to her.

  • I read that all in one breath and I will be back to read it again. Your love for Kerry shines through this post and is evident to everyone.
    I wish you time to heal, I wish you and your children peace and in time happiness. I wish you much love and support over the coming months and I hope the joy and laughter will return to brighten your days when you’re ready

  • A beautiful tribute to a beautiful woman. I hope Kerry knew how loved she was. I may have only met her once but I will always remember how much she put me at ease when I was nervous and how infectious her smile was.

    My thoughts are with you all and Kerry will live on in our hearts, your children and her blog x x

  • What a beautiful tribute for a wonderful lady. Thank you so much for sharing
    xxx

  • Such an amazing tribute for a very lovely amazing lady. I really hope you continue to write on here or somewhere else as multiple daddy. We knew all about you and your lovely little family despite never knowing you and I hope that doesn’t go away. x

  • Beautiful. Just like Kerry. Thank you for sharing with the community. You are still in our thoughts. xx

  • ChrisTea And Cakes

    What can I say? I’m awash with tears. :’(

  • Beautiful post. No wards for how amazing and brave you have been and how supportive. You should be proud. I never knew her, however from reading her blog, I feel like I do, you have carried than on amazingly xxx

  • I cannot ever explain how much your story and Kerry suffering what she did and losing the battle with it has changed the way I view my situation (my husband had the same, he’s 15 months down the line now) I grieve everyday for the ‘him’ he used to be and the life we have no longer (he lives in a nursing home) but I still have him, and therefore that hope…And Kerry passing on made me realise this. i cannot tell you how it’s thrown me into accepting the life I have now and how head-over-heels in love I have fallen with my new different husband…I am eternally grateful to her.

    I have sobbed over this, over the news almost every day since I heard.

    YOu are an utterly wonderful man, a determined and extraordinarily loving husband and father (that comes across) and you have a strength that will forge healing in your kids, and carry you through, eventually…

    I am just so , so sorry x my love and heart felt prayers will always be with your family xx

  • Thank you for sharing. Such a beautiful tribute.

    Thinking of you all.

  • Manxclaire

    Just such a beautiful tribute xx

  • What a truly beautiful heartfelt post .Love to you and your family x

  • Gail @2setsoftwins

    Bless you, what a wonderful tribute. You were very lucky to have found each other, true soul mates xxxx

  • What a lovely post, for a lovely lady x

  • There are no words, how do you make something like the loss of someone so special as Kerry ‘better’? However, she’s left so many people with so many happy memories. Her laughing at me at Britmums, helping me out with the laptop charge at Butlins, trying not to fall down the stairs at Butlins, listening sincerely to every word of every conversation, actually listening and not waiting her turn to converse. I remember her telling me about getting herself locked out the house in *just* her mac!

    A beautiful tribute, that photo of Chilled Out Boy is a treasure and I’m positive she sent it to him.

  • Such a beautiful tribute. I didn’t want it to end, I just wanted to keep reading about your beautiful Kerry.
    That picture, that made the tears threatening to appear spill out. I’m in no doubt that Kerry saw to it that Chilled Out Boy got his ‘blue froggy’
    Love to you all as always xxx

  • This is beautifully written. I admire your courage and strength during a time when your heart must be breaking. It is truly an inspiration that you focus on the good times, the happy thoughts and the positive memories that you had together. I didn’t know Kerry, but I think she would have been exceptionally proud of what you have written here. I wish you and your family all the best in the future, making new memories that no matter where she is, I am sure she will be sharing with you all x

  • Fi

    Thank you so much for sharing such a beautiful tribute.

    Thinking of you all x

  • Ohh Nick, simply amazing. I’m so sad I could not be there, thank you for sharing that with us.

    May the Lord bless and keep you, Mich x

  • such beautiful words.

    Thinking of you today and onwards,

    Jane

  • Such a beautiful tribute to a truly beautiful lady. Much love to you all x

  • Just beautiful xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx sending love

    Love shellybobbins xxxx

  • Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I like others never met Kerry in person and for that I am truly sorry. However I regularly read her blog and chatted with her on twitter, my dad is also a science teacher and we chatted about it on several occasions :) your love and devotion to kerry is so obvious in your touching tribute. Kerry would be so so proud of you and will always be with you and your gorgeous children xx

  • That is just so beautifully written, sending love to you all x x x

  • Such a beautiful tribute, your love shines through.

  • What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. Thank you, I only met Kerry a handful of times but we chatted over email too, about what we wanted from our blogs and lives, and I felt I knew something of her. Reading this reinforces all the impressions she made on me, able to put people at ease, hardworking, keen that people liked her, so lovley, fun and deserving of being liked. You have all been in my thoughts and will continue to be, sending you strength and as Mari said, the time and space to grieve and heal x

  • Monika aka mumonthebrink

    Beautiful words that radiate how special she was to those who knew her (personally and virtually).
    May God be with you and your family and may you find ways for lots of happy family frolics knowing that she is watching you and laughing with you from above.

  • It was a beautiful tribute Nick and an honour to have been there to hear it. I have loved knowing more about the cheerful pretty girl I crossed paths with at events and swapped comments with on our blogs. I only wish I could have continued to get to know her. The photo is perfect – just lovely

  • Adam Baird

    an amazing tribute to a wonderful person. no words can describe how much people will miss her.

  • helen aadams

    what a beautiful tribute i have no other words other than hold your memories tight and your children even tighter. I did not know Kerry but my sincerest thoughts are with you all now and for the future xxx

  • Sorry I couldn’t be there on Friday. Kerry was truly a wonderful woman, but first and foremost she was a wife, a mother, a daughter and a sister.

    I am sending much love to you and your family and your beautiful babies. This blog and all it’s wonderful pictures and tales of time together is such a special treasure to have.

    Oh, and you know us bloggers and tweeters won’t go away. We’re always here if you guys need us x

  • A beautiful tribute. My thoughts are with you and your family xx

  • Beautiful words for a caring, intelligent and much thought of lady. Thinking of you all and wishing you all many years of happy leaf kicking xxxx

  • Julie buttonf1fan

    Dear Nick, thank you for sharing with us. Was so thoughtful to put this post here.

    I can’t possibly say anything as well as you wrote it. Kerry definitely had a gift of befriending people without meeting them, and us twitter mummys miss her.

    That photo of blue frog made me cry. Beautiful.
    Always here for you if you want us… Just tweet or blog and loads of people will reply.

    Also the idea of a woodland burial, thats just pure lovely. X
    Julie

  • I have tears in my eyes. What a beautiful and fitting tribute. x

  • Still thinking of you all and thank you for sharing with us. X

  • sammie Hodges

    Such a great tribute, I have a tear in my eye. Thinking of you all lots. Xx

  • Sonia Constant

    Thishaas reduced me to tears. I cannot see what in writing, so I will return. You are inspiring Nick, thank you for sharing your thoughts and emotions… I feel closer and more healed from her loss… Which might Siund weird!

    I love reading your blog updates and I sincerely hope you carry it on, I was in Cambridge tonight celebrating my 30th and i admit, I thought of Kerry a lot.

    She will always be with me x

  • A beautiful tribute to a beautiful lady.

    Thinking of you all.

    lots of love,

    Claire
    xxx

  • Dear Nick,
    I’m so sorry that I wasn’t aware that Kerry was ill and even more sorry to learn that she’s recently died. I didn’t know her well but as you know she was very enthusiastic about getting involved in everything so you won’t be surprised to learn she put a few posts forward for the Laugh Out Loud roundup on Britmums which I edit. She was very funny!!
    Like others I found your tribute to her very moving and particularly so perhaps as one of my best friends died suddenly last week after being ill for only two weeks. I was especially touched by your words to Kerry’s close friends that they should not feel guilty for going out or for laughing. I’ve not been able to eat chocolate or cake or biscuits since Sarah died – it seems indulgent and I cannot unwrap the jeans I bought during her last hours being totally unaware that she was so unwell. I realise it makes no difference but I just can’t at the moment.
    The poem read at Kerry’s memorial is beautiful and I will suggest it to my friend’s husband who is just starting to think about the funeral.
    Thank you for sharing such a personal and intimate time with 100s of bloggers and readers you don’t know. It’s been very helpful to me and others I’m sure – both reassuring and inspiring.

  • Such beautiful words, beautiful memories and such a beautiful family i am quite sure she is watching over you all and you will continue to grow to be the most beautiful family surrounded by her love x

  • I am sure Kerry is so incredibly proud of you all. Wishing you strength. Emma xxx

  • Yes I think when we see the blog we do think of “our” Kerry. We forget she was a daughter and a sister as well as a mother and wife. I greatly admire you, not for writing this, but for sharing it with the thousands of us out here.
    I had to laugh at the clumsiness and knocking over a drink at 100 yards – we could have been related.
    Thank you for sharing all these lovely memories with me and making me smile through the tears.

  • A beautiful tribute. my thoughts are with you and your family. xxx

  • sarah lambert

    This is such a beautiful tribute,Its so kind of you to share your lovely momeries of you wonderfful wife My thoughts are with you and your beautiful children God Bless
    Xx

  • LauraH

    What amazing words.
    It has taken me a few attempts to read as the tears roll down my cheeks.
    You were lucky to have found each other. A match some only dream of.
    So cruel that such a beautiful lady (inside and out) has been taken from the world. We need more like Kerry.
    Find comfort that she will now be your guardian angel.
    Our love goes to you, your 3 wonderful children, family and friends at this difficult time.
    X

  • A beautiful tribute, I am so sorry that Kerry had to leave this world so soon xx

  • What a wonderful tribute. It must have been hearbreaking to write. Filled with tears and laughter.
    YOu say she said she never won anything..I disagree she has you – her biggest prize. We all hope our hubbys / partners think as much of us as you clearly do of Kerry (and the children of course!)
    Prayers and thoughts of you all..xxx

  • I have been reading your post since I entered the blogging world back in August last year. I am ever so sorry to hear of such an amazing loss of life, this post was so lovely to read, emotional and thoughtful, I had images of you, Kerry and the kids imagining the scene. You are doing such an amazing job, remember its ok to cry! Thoughts are with you all, your special Kerry is with you all, always I’m sure. Jade x

  • Aaahhh what a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing, thinking of you all xx

  • A beautiful tribute. Thinking of you all and what a gorgeous pic of Chilled out boy. Hugs and love to you all x

  • Moving words about a remarkable woman. She will be missed. This post has helped all of us know her a little bit more.

  • What a beautiful and fitting tribute for a very special woman. Kerry will never be forgotten. x

  • Saskiya

    I may not have known of Kerry BUT a dear friend burst into tears upon reading this beautiful piece about your wife. I had to see for myself just what could have brought the tears on. Now I see and she sounds like she was a wonderful woman who deserved the loving family she had.

  • The strength, eloquence and love in your posts about Kerry is humbling. With love to you and all the family.

  • Emma J Lowe

    such a beautiful tribute

  • Beautiful, thank you so much for sharing.

  • Rhoda

    Beautiful. Thinking of you and your family.x

  • Oh crumbs. So beautiful. It can’t mean anything really, but all my love and thoughts and prayers for you all.

  • A truly beautiful tribute. There are no words. kerry was a really lovely lady with an incredible smile x

  • elsie

    A very lovely tribute to Kerry. Thoughts are with you and your family. That blue frog is extra special

  • beautiful words for a beautiful lady. So true to remember that she certainly does live on in your amazing children. The poem by Helen Steiner Rice comes to mind – the bend in the road. And this is a bend in the road for your family and one day you will all be re-united with Kerry in heaven and will have the biggest celebration ever and it will last forever. sending you much love and prayers xxx

  • J jagger

    In absolute floods of tears.What a wonderful appreciative husband.I am a recent multiple mummy.I never got to “meet” your wife in the online world but she sounded an incredible person.Love to your family x

  • Ann-Marie

    simply beautiful, for a beautiful lady.

    our thoughts are with you all xxx

  • That was such a beautiful tribute that I could not read with dry eyes. You have a talent for writing and it is so touching that you have kept up her blog, even in the midst of your grief. I am so sorry that your family lost such a beautiful and amazing person.

  • You have written a wonderful post about Kerry. I had both a lump in my throat and a smile on my face. A truly beautiful tribute about your lovely wife xx

  • A beautiful post Nick., a lovely tribute to Kerry who was a wonderful wife, mother, friend and daughter…I shall miss her..xx

  • Beautiful words. Like so many others I am deeply touched and inspired although I never met Kerry personally.

  • A beautiful tribute to your wife, who I never met, but can see was not only a wonderful wife and mother but an inspirational person to all those she came into contact with. It’s devastatingly sad that she has been taken from all of your lives, I wish you the strength and love to get through this awful time. My thoughts are with you xxx

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