I have linked this post up to Here come the girls Tea and Sympathy Link up because I am full of cold and feel awful again, and yet I still have the kiddiwinks, who now move and are more demanding and I have to tutor tonight, so I am in desperate need of a virtual cuppa. How I feel today reminded me of this post!
Everyone likes taking a duvet day from time to time and pre-children it was almost indulgent. You know that after children, duvet days are pure luxury and happen… well never! But actually being sick is a nightmare! A few weeks ago I got a throat infection. I had a temperature, was shivering and sweating and felt like I had razor blades down my throat that have swollen up just for good measure! Plain and simply I felt dreadful!
My husband had half of a job interview that day and was unable to take the day off, but I was so fortunate that my mother in law came over at lunchtime to give me a break and tend to the children (for which I slept and sweat – nice!).
The last time I was poorly was a year ago and I got some horrendous sickness bug that resulted in me being admitted to the hospital for the night on a drip! Still, I had to look after three babies at the time all under 1 and ½ in-between being very sick during the day (plus the other end…not to gore you with details!) until my husband got home from work. I promptly fainted (for dramatic effect) and was admitted to hospital! My Mum had to take me because Nick could not leave the children! I was sent hope the next morning – my hubby went back to work and I had the kids again! I didn’t get a break even though I had been on a drip all night! Two days later, my sister came to help me and ended up catching the same thing and I ended up looking after her too – she will confirm how awful this bug was! It was realisation that I was now a full time parent it meant no time off. Not even to be poorly!
But what do you do when you’re ill? Most of my friends have their own children or work so are not really able to help plus you don’t want to inflict illness on them if you can help it! My Mum still works full-time and it is very difficult for my husband to take time off from his job! I do try not to be resentful when he is ill and he gets to spend the day in bed or more, but in all honesty I do a bit!
So the answer is carry on regardless! I found shutting us all in one room, the TV and DVD player as our only form of entertainment (I know rubbish parenting, but needs must!) and hoping that I didn’t have to move too much except for meal times and nappy changes was our solution.
I knew I had to feel better the next day – 1 day poorly is any mother’s entitlement! I just wished my temperature would come down; it makes you feel like crap! I sympathise with my children now when they get temperatures with teething…you don’t want to eat or do anything!
I was so grateful to have some help but again it got me thinking how do mothers cope with no family locally or no husband or significant other to take the burden when they get home? My sister-in-law had been in this predicament for the last 10 years. She is truly amazing!
Ibuprofen is my saving grace and I am so lucky that as soon as my husband got in from work I crawled into bed whilst he did the feeding and sorting of the children for which I am truly grateful. I take my hat off for you Mum’s that have no luxury of an early bedtime or family to assist. You are true heroes!